Are you not sure how to introduce sex toys in the bedroom? Are you thinking about trying sex toys but are too embarrassed to try them? Are you unsure whether sex toys are right for you and your relationship? Don't worry - you are not alone. Plenty of people are hesitant and nervous about using sex toys.
Here are some common misconceptions about sex toys:
Respectful people don’t use sex toys
All kinds of people use sex toys, including people most would consider perfectly normal. Using a sex toy doesn’t make you “weird” or doesn’t say anything negative about your relationship. It just helps you have fun and makes you have an orgasm! Also, who will know besides you (and hopefully, your partner) unless you tell them?
Sex toys are just for masturbation
While sex toys are commonly used for masturbation, many couples enjoy using sex toys together, regardless of their gender or sexual orientation. Usually these couples are comfortable trying new things together, are open-minded, comfortable with their bodies and trusting.
Your partner will feel incompetent if you start using a sex toy
Do you think that bringing in a sex toy will hurt your partner’s feelings? A sex toy can give you an orgasm, but it can’t tell you how much they love you or get you a drink of water afterwards. An object is not a substitute for a real person. If your lover has this fear, be sensitive and stroke his or her ego a little bit. As with most relationship issues, good communication is key.
Using sex toys can be physically dangerous
In fact, sex toys can have very positive effects on your sexual health.
For example, all women can benefit from kegel exercisers, like the Aneros Evi Kegel Exerciser or kegel balls, such as LELO Luna Beads, to tone the pelvic floor muscles; if you suffer from painful sex, vibrators can stimulate blood flow; many doctors and therapists recommend female sex toys to women who have trouble reaching orgasm; prostate massagers, such as the Fun Factory Duke Prostate Massager, reduce the risk of prostate cancer, erectile dysfunction and frequent nighttime urination.
And finally, orgasms help you live longer, block pain and, some say, look younger. What more could you ask for?
If you use sex toys too much, you won’t have an orgasm with your partner
If your partner is afraid you’ll replace him or her with your favorite toy, promise him or her that you’ll keep your sex life varied: try different positions, new toys, light bondage and fantasy play.
If your relationship is healthy, there’s no reason why you should need a sex toy
Congratulations for having a healthy relationship. However, who wouldn’t want to make their relationship even stronger and closer by sharing a new experience? If your lover is adamant about not needing a sex toy to brighten up your sex life, assure him or her that you don’t need a sex toy either, you’d just like to try one.
You or your partner is afraid of feeling pleasure
Pleasure is a birthright. Everyone deserves it and should have it. Own your sexuality and do what works for you. After all, orgasms make you healthier and happier.
Buying sex toys can be really embarrassing especially because they look gross and scary
You are right. MySecretLuxury has set out to create a safe sophisticated environment where you can shop in the comfort of your own home (or office).
Most toys make you feel uncomfortable because they are usually phallic or ugly looking or are so loud that you think your children or neighbor might hear what you are up to. Luxury sex toys are just the opposite. You might not even realize that they are sex toys because they look like art. They are now so discreet and quiet that no one will be the wiser.
These arguments might seem logical and work for some people but might not work for you. If that’s the case, here are 3 more reasons to try out sex toys:
Sex Toys = Pleasure
Who is not a fan of orgasms? You might be too tired or busy to have sex, but there’s no denying that orgasms feel good. Sex toys can help you have more orgasms. Who doesn’t want that?
Sex Toys are Fun.
Whether you have been with your lover for a few months or many years, things are not as exciting as they used to be and you want to try something new. That’s ok – you are only human! Sex toys can add excitement to the bedroom and keep things from getting mundane. Using a sex toy together can bring you closer; sharing new experiences together can be very intimate.
Sex Toys Make Sex Better.
Did you know that about 30% of women actually have an orgasm during sex? Most women need clitoral stimulation to achieve an orgasm. Meanwhile, many men have trouble sustaining their erections as long as they would like, whether it be because of age or medication.
Sex toys to the rescue! They can also enhance a perfectly good lovemaking session, taking it from a 10 to a 20!
Are you ready? Here are a few suggestions on how to introduce sex toys in the bedroom:
- Start slow by starting out with something small with an egg vibrator, like the LELO Lyla 2 Vibrator or with a discreet vibrator, like the Je Joue MiMi Vibrator. Start with a small sex toy and show your lover that the toy is all about adding more pleasure and excitement to the bedroom. If you want to try light bondage, try a simple blindfold, such as the Bijoux Indiscrets Satin Blindfold, or holding your lover’s hands above their head during foreplay.
- When you are ready, work your way up to something bigger and bolder.
- Remember that communication is the key to any healthy relationship. If you can’t share your feelings or desires, something is not right.
Hopefully, you now have the confidence you need to introduce sex toys into your relationship. Don't forget that experimentation never hurt anyone!