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BDSM & Fetish Books

Many people claim that they have never heard of BDSM before reading Fifty Shades of Grey. Whether that is true or not, what we know is that the interest in BDSM is definitely trending. We have compiled a small selection of books that will introduce the topic and allow the curious to begin exploring.

The acronym stands for bondage and discipline, domination and submission, and sadism and masochism. In other words — BDSM isn’t just one thing. It includes a broad range of erotic acts, from using a feather tickler to being bound and beaten, consensually of course. 

There’s a lot of myths around BDSM. The biggest one is that it’s actually abuse. And while it can happen in BDSM situations, it’s not happening more frequently than in relationships without BDSM. Communication has always been very important in BDSM - partners discuss their boundaries, their safe words, injuries, what they’re into, what they’re not into, and more.

Another big myth about BDSM is that something is wrong with you if you enjoy it. BDSM is just another way to experience pleasure. 

BDSM should be consensual. Because some of the activities can cause physical harm, risk and limits should be explored, considered, discussed, and clarified beforehand. 

Sensation play uses your body’s senses to arouse and stimulate. Think: tickling, spanking, caning or flogging, using ice cubes or hot wax, bondage, or being blindfolded. It might include pain but it just as commonly includes a massage. Read more about sensation play here.

Role play is another form of BDSM where you and your partner(s) act out a role or persona. Use it act out fantasies or explore taboos. Make it as simple or elaborate as you want. 

Sadomasochism, also known as S&M, involves one person having complete control over the other. You may already know that you prefer being in control (top or dom), being controlled (bottom or sub), or switching between the two (switch). If not, take turns initiating and playing both roles. Pain, humiliation, and bondage are commonly used in S&M as a way to exert power. 

Fetishes are objects and acts, though not typically sexual, that turn you on or get you off. Activities like exhibition and voyeurism where you like being watched or watching others, respectively, also fall into this category.

BDSM provides a range of new and exciting sexual activities to add to your routine. Whether you want to try a few kinky acts or become part of the BDSM community, there are many ways to explore.